Kate came through the door from school today absolutely distraught. Apparently a girl in her class spotted her completely awesome kitchen sink bracelet custom made for her by TaLaisa at TaLaisa's Bead Drawer. Kate absolutely adores this bracelet -- it is the greatest single treasure in her world and she in inordinately proud of it. This little girl saw what a completely cool bracelet it was and decided that she wanted it for herself, so she threatened Kate that she wouldn't be her friend unless she gave her the bracelet. Not wanting to create an enemy, and not having any experience with such matters, Kate gave in and handed over the prized possession. By the time she got home she was a mess -- completely devastated. Well, we had a talk about how wrong it is to blackmail someone into giving something away, and how wrong it is to ask for things that don't belong to you. We also talked about how we have to be strong and stand up for ourselves and not give other people the right and opportunity to walk all over us. This is a good lesson for her. I've coached her about what to say to this little girl tomorrow when she asks for her bracelet back. Also, as luck would have it, we had parent/teacher conferences today and I informed her teacher of the problem. Between the three of us Kate should have her bracelet back tomorrow and be a little more world-wise in the bargain.
April 16-30 2015
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4/16
You need a Clara Barton costume tomorrow!!? No problem.
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4/17
Emmy did a great job on her Clara Barton report!!
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10 years ago
7 comments:
How sad! Poor Kate. I hope all goes well today.
Poor little Kate, sad but true, they have to get tough. I'm glad you could handle it with the teacher. I think girls are much worse than boys with blackmail. Here is my little story about bullying. (or I thought)
Nate gave his coat away one day. I was so mad, I thought he had been bullied and I talked to him about it and he was very vague about the details, so I decided to go to the teacher about the issue. When I went in and presented my thoughts of what I thought had happened, she said,"Christie I know how you feel, but I was there and this is what happened. The little boy was cold on the play ground and Nate asked why he never wore a coat and the little boy said he didn't have one, and Nate gave him his and said, don't worry, my mom will understand she always says we should be kind." Wow, I was so embarresed. We had to have a talk about maybe asking before we give away big things like coats that grandparents have given us for Christmas. Nate asked me about a hundred times that year, mom should I be kind and give a pencil to someone or should I say no, should I share my cookies, etc. Ugh, it was awful.
Awwwwww. That little stinker! Gosh it's scary to see how manipulative they can be at such a young age. I hope Kate can get her bracelet back, quickly.
I'm glad she loves it so much! Knowing people enjoy wearing the jewelry I make for them, makes it fun for me.
Christie, loved your story! Lori, you must let us know how this all turns out!
Chris, your story made me laugh SO hard! Kids are so good at making us look like jerks, arent' they?
Update on the bracelet situation: Kate came home from school today, happy as could be, bracelet securely around her wrist. I asked her how she got it back. She said she asked the little girl for it, and she said 'no'. So Kate said, "OK, I'll just tell Mrs. Berg (her teacher) that we have a little problem." The girl quickly handed the bracelet over. Problem solved. Ah, the power of the first grade teacher!
Awesome! Problem solved with just a little "straight talk!" Go Katie Bug!
What a great problem solver she is. I'm glad she got her bracelet back.
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